We’re a society that wants instant gratification, this isn’t something new that I’m discovering. We want a quick fix, from getting abs after doing 100 crunches, to dropping 5lbs after eating a salad; detoxes, skinny teas, coconut oil wraps on your stomach, and 6 secrets to getting slim. This is bullshit and I’m calling every single one of those gimmicks out right now.
Nothing in life comes easy. It’s simple: if you really want something, you have to work hard to get it. Some things may come easier to some people than others, but that doesn’t mean they don’t work hard to get what they want. Yes, some are genetically blessed or are born into a family of wealth, but there’s no doubt that these ‘lucky’ people still have to work hard in other areas of their lives that may seem more simple for us.
As a coach for nearly 7 years, I’ve heard it all from clients;
“I’ve been working out for months now and haven’t lost the baby weight yet.”
“I eat really clean but I haven’t seen any results.”
“I’ve been training hard but still cannot deadlift 200lbs.”
“I drink so much water but I still have a barrel around my stomach.”
“I don’t know what I’m doing wrong…?”
The simple truth is this: you need to keep showing up. Even when it’s hard. Even on days when you want to give up. Even though you feel like you will never reach your goals.
Relationships don’t always come easy, yet we put in the work day in and day out, for countless years; trying to improve communication, sex lives and social awareness. We know that we need to keep showing up for our friends, family and significant other in order to improve and continually grow. When we are seriously committed to strength training (I’ll use myself as an example here), I know that I will always need to keep showing up to the gym, on days when I don’t really feel like working out, and continue to push through, because my goals are always growing. I need to keep showing up, even when it gets hard and I want to quit.
One phrase that I hear too often is, “I haven’t lost any weight but I eat really clean. So what’s the point in eating well if I’m not seeing results? I might as well eat poorly because at least I’ll be happy.”
Really? You think you’ll be happy? Remember that our bodies are going through changes on a daily basis; even though you may not see changes on the outside, your body is still undergoing chemical reactions on a regular basis, to function, to grow; and your body keeps showing up for you, morning after morning, no matter what.
Sometimes we need to take a step back and revisit our needs, wants and realistic goals. Sometimes we do need a coach to guide us in the right direction. But no matter what resources we end up utilizing, we need to keep showing up.
PERSISTENCE: the quality that allows someone to continue doing something even though it is difficulty or opposed by other people; the state of occurring or existing beyond the usual, expected, or normal time.
Persistence is to keep showing up. To continue to put in the work even though it may seem like it’s taking longer than what the timeline should look like (are we comparing ourselves to others?)
No matter what you want in life, you need to keep showing up for it, and not giving in when it gets tough or when the novelty has worn off. Things get tough before the get easy. Seek out help from a professional, whether it’s a nutrition coach or a life coach.